True the easy way would be a full gnome install "maybe a core install", and the wayland experience is straight forward there. Yes debian is able to do wayland with gnome with either back-ports, or pre-upgrade buster and good up to date software mostly. What i forgot to mention is that im not that much a gnome guy, mainly because i feel gnome is heavy and bloated. Yes its possible to have a stable and functional gnome running. I do like a xfce4 desktop better and it behave more "crisp" and responsive on my typical setup.Anyway. I did learn a thing or to experimenting and i will keep follow the development of wayland.Then one day i think i will take another turn and see how it goes .
I'm no expert, and know little about Wayland, and haven't run a Debian based distro for years... but it sounds to me that the best method to experiment would be to try to add XFCE to a distro that has Wayland/GNOME... that way at least, you know Wayland is working from page one, right?
sudo apt install xfce4
You guys are missing the issue here. Wayland is not some program to install along side your favorites. It is a structural change, on which XFCE does not support at this point. It's either/or. Build up a pure Wayland GNOME. from install media intended to be gnome on wayland.This is literally the old doctor joke: User: Doc, it hurts when I move my arm? Doc Wayland: then don't move your arm.
....best method would be to start from a point where wayland works and you know it works, and go from there.